Addicted to Rage
We are not suggesting that helping
some people express their anger in safe, controlled
ways is a bad idea; we are only saying that it doesn't help
people with rage
problems. Think of it like this: does it really make
sense to take a keg of beer to an alcohol treatment center
so that problem drinkers can "get it all out of their
system?" In the same way that alcoholics are addicted
to alcohol, "rageaholics" are addicted
to rage.
The more alcoholics drink, the more
they want to keep drinking. Rage follows the same
pattern: the more ragers rage,
the more they want to rage. As anger builds in a rage
addict, a combination of physiological processes and
learned behaviors sets up a cascade effect that pushes him
to harsher, more aggressive, even violent,
expressions of anger. This is why the very first rule you
need to learn, right now, is that when you are angry,
don't say anything! When a rage addict starts talking
about his anger, it only makes him angrier, like
turning up the fire under the pressure cooker. Shutting
up is like shutting off the flame under the pressure cooker.
It can help to prevent
a rage event by giving the body's physiological processes
a chance to return to normal.
*Exerpt from the
Anger Busting Workbook*
The Anger Busting
Workbook
by James. A. Baker
A ForeWord Magazine
"Book of the Year" Finalist
Anger Management
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